So I saw this awesome slow motion video on FB yesterday of this 19 year old launching himself in the air and breaking a pole vault record clearing the bar at 19 ft and 1 inch.
The video was great inspiration for me to help while my client who was struggling with some serious anxieties about her career.
I asked her to tell me her fears, to acknowledge the specific things that are stressing her and paralysing her from starting on her journey of finding a new “corporate” job.
Remembering the awesome video I talked through how sometimes to achieve goals you may have to crash on a mat a couple of times. There is no way that kids who hurled himself near vertical in the air to clear that bar had success straight away. He would have had many sessions practising, likely falling, possibly hurting.
So we set some goals to apply for a set number of jobs per week, to allocate a set time to research companies and to set rewards for achieving these goals. We acknowledged that rejection would happen but that was just like crashing on the mats, it was practise that gave tougher skin and increased grit to attack the next challenge.
Setting goals can be hard especially when you are paralysed by perfectionalism, weighed downed with anxiety or unclear of what you really want to achieve.
Here are some hints to help you achieve your goals:
- It can be helpful to break down the big goal into smaller, manageable tasks.
- You need allocate specific times in your diary for when you are working on these tasks, you need focus. Also set realistic time frames for completion.
- It important to reward yourself as you accomplish things – whether it’s a coffee break, some tv time or a special purchase.
- It also great to have support – a mentor, an accountability buddy or just a supportive friend.
To watch the full video click here and Happy Decluttering!
For many of my clients my job is to help them “adult”.
Maybe their parents didn’t teach them, they’ve had someone else to do it for them or have just managed to procrastinate somethings forever.
According to a recent article we google a lot of how to” things. (Click here to read it yourself – it’s pretty interesting). Some of the top searches are for tasks that may seem pretty basic to many like how to change a lightbulb or boil an egg.
But not everyone was taught to adult and that’s ok.
I love teaching my clients to adult – whether it’s creating systems for bills, meals, laundry, home maintenance or other random things. I love empowering my client to build on their skill set, set goals and achieve them – no matter how big or small and master this thing called life.
So if you’re ready to learn now and want some help “adulting” thats ok. Google doesn’t actually have all the answers to life so maybe I can help.
#adulting #divaeffect #declutteringdiva
Here are some tips from me and fellow PO Linda Eagleton on how to keep your shed decluttered and organised, featured in a recent RealEstate.com.au article.
Firstly, I want you to set a reminder or press record on your TV for this Sunday 8:10pm on ch7.
Thank you. Now I will tell you my story.
For many of you the idea of having a stranger rifle through your personal possessions and give advice on how to handle them better is terrifying. Many of my clients can be extremely anxious before I arrive and during my visit. Dry mouth, heart palpitations, sweaty palms, the feeling of wanting to run away or have me leave – I’ve seen it all before. I don’t take it personally and even though my clients don’t always believe me, I understand. I really do.
You see most of my life I’ve had a phobia of birds.My first memories are going into the chicken coup at my grandparents hobby farm to get the eggs. I hated it when the chickens flapped about. I remember the fear growing when dealing with those wretched magpies while I walked to and from school in the spring time. The next vivid memory was going to Wilsons Promotory and feeding the rainbow lorikeets and being pranked by my brothers.
Fast forward to being a grown up, having kids and the like. My anxiety towards birds had escalated to such a state that I couldn’t go to food court alone because of the pigeons, beach outings were a nightmare with those terrifying seagulls and on really bad days a moth could set me into a full blown panic attack. It was horrible. It was embarrassing. It was crippling. My fear had taken over and controlled my thoughts and actions.
This Sunday on the Sunday Night program on Channel 7 my story will be shared – showing before, during and after a new treatment for phobias.
I would love you to watch.
I have shared my story and try this new treatment for several reasons
- to help to enlighten and educate those that don’t suffer from anxiety or phobias
- to speak for those that due to their anxiety cannot
- to show that change can happen
- And because as a psychology student I had to try it.
Like you inviting me into your home to work through your clutter issues, I invite you into my life to see another side of me. I hope it inspires you to overcome a fear, or to be patient with someone you may know who struggles with anxiety. As I write this I am both terrified and excited that my secret will be out.
So watch the show and find out how I now handle birds.
I shared this post of Pinterest beauty hack fails on my fb page earlier for a bit of a laugh.
I want to make something clear Pinterest is not reality.
Many people look to Pinterest for ideas and inspiration to get decluttered and organised, that is fine. What is not fine is the unrealistic expectation that your home needs to be Pinterest perfect.
So many of the hacks I see initially look good but practically they won’t work. For instance this bracelet organising idea using a paper towel holder…
Seems ok till you want to get to the one on the bottom. Like any organising that has stacks, you will use the top 2 or 3 and the rest will be too hard to get too and won’t get used.
How about this one…
Firstly, I think that is too many cleaning products and secondly a cheap plastic product like this won’t last. You would need to buy a very high quality over the door shoe hanger to support the weight. Not so cheap and cheerful after all?!?
I plan to continue to challenge the Pinterest mindset that things to need to be colour coded, pretty labelled, overly contained, matchy matchy niceness to be organised.
Using a Professional Organiser like Decluttering Diva who has experience and the ability to think outside the box will get you organising solutions that actually work… for you.
Would love to hear your thoughts… got a Pinterest organising hack that actually works? Dare to share a Pinterest fail?
Here at Decluttering Diva, we understand how difficult it can be to stay organised all the time. Trust us, no one is perfect when it comes to staying organised. However, we must say that we are better than most. We specialise in working with those who struggle with chronic disorganisation issues. Similar to working with a personal trainer who you hire to help you lose weight, Decluttering Diva can help you with hands on support and expert, practical advice to help you lose your clutter for good. Because of our expertise in this area, Bupa Life Insurance featured us in their recent post about ‘How to Declutter Your Home and Your Life’. Here are some of our tips to help you tackle the dreaded kitchen pantry, one of the most common culprits of disorganisation.
Clear It Out
Start by taking everything out so that you can see what you are working with. Check every bottle or box for expiration dates and throw out anything that is past its prime. If there are any duplicates, combine them into one container, if possible. If there is any food that you and your family are unlikely to eat but that is still good, you may want to consider donating it to a local food bank or shelter. Once you have consolidated everything, take inventory to figure out if there is anything you’ll need to buy the next time you are at the store so that you have everything you need.
Tidy It Up
Now that you’ve gotten rid of the excess, it’s time to start putting things away. Don’t just shove everything back into the pantry. Take some time to really think about where things will go so that they are convenient and easy to access when you need them. For condiments or seasonings, a Lazy Susan can be a great way to stay organised. This way, you won’t have to worry about jars getting lost and forgotten at the back of the shelf. Simply rotate the Lazy Susan to find what you are looking for with ease.
Keep It That Way
Here comes the hard part: keeping your pantry organised for the long haul. Schedule a time to maintain the organisation of your pantry. It could be every week or once a month. The point is to set a schedule that works best for you. Each time you organise, put everything that moved back into its rightful place and double-check expiration dates. The more often you stay on top of your organisation, the easier it will be to maintain. With just a little bit of effort, you’ll be amazed at how much easier it is to keep everything in order so that you can always find that jar of oregano when you need it.
Ok, today we are getting healthy. Today for your National Organising Week Challenge we are getting our bathrooms cabinets healthy.
Did you know your makeup, skincare and medicine have expiry dates? And if you use them after those dates it can make you sick. Here is a guide for how long your makeup should stay around once it’s opened.
Want to know something else? All those hotel samples can be decluttered for good – send them to my good friends at Every Little Bit Helps (www.elbh.org.au) and thy will distribute to the homeless.
So take 5 minutes – chuck the old stuff, declutter the hotel stuff and make your bathroom beautiful.
It’s National Organising Week!!! A time when Professional Organisers across Australia share our love for organising and our great industry.
NOW is the perfect time to start a new habit to help you get decluttered and organised. Each day I’m going to share a quick tip for you.
Today I want you to quickly go through your wardrobe and pull out 5 items that you haven’t worn for about a year. If you can do more, great.
Don’t over think it though.
Now put them in a bag and put that bag straight into your car to be taken to your local charity shop/ bin.
(If you have extra time go back to the wardrobe and identify any “maybe” items that you were considering going to charity and turn those hangers backwards (or if folded items place at the top/ front of the section). At the end of this week you can revisit them and consider whether you are ready to let go of them.)
Well the holidays are almost over and reality is about to it – busy schedules, routines (or lack there of), school lunches and more.
If all of this makes you want to hide under the covers,stop and think – Life doesn’t have to be this way -it doesn’t have to run you, you CAN have control. You are never too busy to get organised.
Getting organised actually helps to save your valuable time. It can also help you to save money, reduce stress and feel in control.
I want to share the organising love (pardon the Valentine’s pun) and give you a kick start to declutter and organise your year. Book your in-home session in February and I’ll put you in the draw to win Decluttering Diva’s Organising Pack (valued at over $100) containing some of my favourite organising tools.
So call me on 0402 021 995 or email me @ firstname.lastname@example.org and we can get started on having a fantastic February living life with the #divaeffect.